Kiambu: Counselors and life coaches in Kiambu County have raised concern over the growing number of young men sinking into depression, drug abuse, and even near-death experiences following emotional and financial exploitation by women who enter relationships purely for material gain.
According to Kenya News Agency, relationship counselor Dr. Susan Gitau has reported a sharp increase in cases of men suffering emotional breakdowns after being deceived by partners pretending to love them. Many victims report financial ruin and suicidal thoughts as a result of their experiences.
Dr. Gitau highlighted the dangers of relationships built on deceit and financial motives, stating, “Some men have ended up in violent confrontations, and a few have narrowly escaped death after discovering they were being used,” and warned that money-driven relationships are a significant contributor to the rise in gender-based violence.
Several men have shared painful stories of betrayal after investing heavily in women they believed loved them. Boniface Elvis, a 35-year-old marketer, revealed he spent over Sh500,000 on a woman who promised commitment, only for her to disappear after receiving financial assistance to start a salon and boutique. Elvis lamented, “I thought we were building a future together. I gave her everything I could, but when the money stopped, she left without explanation,” adding that the emotional toll nearly led him to despair.
Another victim, Francis Kinuthia, recounted nearly taking his life after discovering his girlfriend was using the money he sent her on another man. “I treated her well, supported her needs, but later learned she was cheating. It shattered me,” he said.
Some victims, scarred by their experiences of exploitation, have sworn off relationships altogether. Life coaches, led by Paul Collins, emphasized that the issue is a national concern, with many men suffering in silence. Collins noted that the stories victims share at counseling centers are shocking and called for interventions, including increased awareness for men to prevent further harm.
Collins also revealed that the trend is particularly rampant among female university students who exploit men under the guise of love. “Some students have turned relationships into survival schemes. Once the man falls into the trap, the emotional and financial damage can be devastating,” observed Collins.
Dr. Gitau urged young men to be cautious in providing financial support without clear commitment, highlighting that many victims of such manipulation end up depressed or violent. She also called on young women to avoid deceitful relationships, warning that exploiting partners for money can lead to tragedy.